What Do You Love: People or Possessions?
There is probably a stark difference between the gifts of love, patience, kindness, and emotional support, given to you by your loved ones and the list of technological devices you may have remembered in question one. Despite that realization, it’s the possessions in our life that fill our time, while our loved ones are sometimes forgotten. It’s as if we use people and love our possessions instead of using our possessions and loving people.
Whether it’s our newest gadget a new car or our next cup of coffee, there is a drive to always want more. Author Matthew Kelly said “you can never have enough of the things you don’t need.” I see many of these things on a daily basis and I wonder why we are constantly striving to get more done and collect more stuff. The ones we love, the people that surround us on a daily basis can offer us so much more than any possession.
As I previously said, the death of my father was an awakening that helped me realize that the most important things in life are not things at all. What I loved about the last month of my dad’s life was how he shut off the television, unplugged the phone and reflected on his life. Each day I went to visit him he would tell me about a person from his past. Whether it was the best mechanic he ever worked with, or his father, or one of his children; the best memories in his life always involved people, and NEVER involved possessions. I never heard him talk about how he loved his first car, or how he wished that he spent more time watching television. All of his memories involved the people that he loved and loved him back.
It’s unfortunate that we don’t know the time in place in which we will pass. And there is no preparation that will help us quickly get over the ones that we lose. But I can promise you this, if you connect, and love and share your life with those around you, the life that you live on earth will exist forever through memories, long after your possessions fade away.